One of the first articles I had published was about the lessons I learned early in my Christian life on community. We were new members of a little church and had no idea how Christian people interacted. I was expecting the church to behave like any other group of people–to indulge in gossip, infighting and every other sort of negative human behavior. I was surprised when our little fellowship weathered a storm–a difference of opinion and a difference in priorities–with love. There wasn’t any gossip, and there wasn’t any trouble. There was just a discussion in which everyone spoke from their hearts, and then a decision. The people who “lost”, merely gave up their rights, honored the group and went on loving the body. That was an unforgettable demonstration of  Christian community.

I have a friend going through a difficult time and was again reminded of how much we need each other. We need to be heard, understood and above all, loved and accepted. We need the assurance that no matter how hard our lives become, we’ll be present for one another. When we can trust others with our deepest hurts and know we’re loved, that’s another way to show community.

I’m learning that community is an essential part of  my writing life too. Yes, I sit alone at my desk or computer for hours at a time working independently. But I also need other writers available to teach me, encourage me, discuss ideas and redirect my thinking. I need more experienced writers to teach the workshops, give me feedback on my work and share the struggles we encounter as we work to improve our skills. I need to give other writers my time and share any information I might have to help them grow and prosper as writers.

I feel fortunate to have found Oregon Christian Writers as my first writing support group. Every conference they offer is positive, challenging and the sense of community is alive and well. My critique group is another little place of safety, encouragement and honest give and take.

Where do you get the support you need as a writer? Who can you count on for honest feedback? How does your writerly community work for you?